Talk to your referee.

We all know that we are supposed to play to the referee's decision and that 'dissent' - that means arguing with a decision - is not allowed. Referees are allowed to apply penalty points for too much arguing - also because it could be a sneaky way to get a breather from the game.

On the other hand it is only fair that a player can ask for an explanation of a ref's decision. This is sensible because it could allow help avoid the same thing happening again. So it is perfectly ok to ask 'why was that a stroke not a let?' for example. Answer: 'because you did not make enough effort to clear the ball for your opponent.' Which makes it clear what you have to do in the future to avoid losing other points.

This is also a chance for you to send messages back. Famously when a referee denied one professional player a let saying: ' you would not have got there in time', the player replied: 'you don't know how quick I am, ref!'. So long as you accept the decision at the time you can still say things that might make the ref give a fairer chance for you the next time.

And remember that when you are refereeing that the players have a right to ask you for an explanation - you can't just hide behind the 'no arguments' rule. So make sure you do have an explanation for everything you decide.